21 Questions with Bachelor of the Week
Adrian, a very talented guy from Singapore. He is the guy behind the camera and occasionally, the ‘subject’ of his lens as a model. Adrian has been selected as one of the finalists in “The Photoshoot Awards NUDE 2017 competition”. Also being featured alongside other well-known photographers and artists, in Dark Beauty Magazine, Beautiful Magazine, and DNA Australia. He can sing very well too, listen to it and enjoy his interview below.
“Apart from my day job, and regular visits to the gym. Religiously, throughout 365 days, I devote most of my leisure time to various artistic interests. The first relates to my photography that I have showcased on my Instagram. I am still working hard on this.
The second relates to my passion for singing. I did not have the luxury of time to further develop this interest of mine. Perhaps, one day I will be able to resume where I left off and, hopefully, collaborate with some musician friends.”
Follow Adrian @ad3ism
1. Living in?
An accounting, audit and risk professional
4. Three apps which you are addicted to?
5. Favorite part of your body?
My mind, but some say my resting – bitch – face
6. Which part of a hot guy catches your eye the most?
That little recess where the curves of his inner thighs meet the bottom end of his butt cheeks. This is why some call it the ‘sweet spot’.
7. Three things which will get you into bed?
If a scruffy looking Vadim Black walked over to me in a bar, look me right in the eyes and ask, “Hey…I wouldn’t mind being bottom for a change, my Z4 is parked outside. Wanna come over to my place? There’s a hot tub and a bottle of chilled champagne
8. Your weirdest turn on?
That expression of mixed agony and pleasure of a top when he is being
xxxx; someone like Atsushi Daigo Hiroki.
9. The strangest place you have done it?
In my head. I am otherwise very old-fashioned and square – my/his bedroom
or A hotel room.
10. Three qualities in your perfect boyfriend?
Someone who’s ambitious, who has integrity and is hopelessly romantic
11. Dealbreaker (Something he does which prevents you dating him)?
Someone who doesn’t share the same core values or ideals with me
12. How long have you been single?
I’m like that tub of honey that had been relegated to the bottom shelf of some grocery store, reachable, only by those who squat “low and deep enough”.
Do you squat?
13. Three reasons to visit?
Dempsey Hills, rooftop bars (Loof and SuperTree by Indochine), and Formula 1 (happening 15-17 Sep. this year) which I’m not a big fan of. And if you can still find authentic Peranakan food – try
Ayam Buah Keluak, go on google it.
14. When is the best time to visit?
15. What’s your recommended must-do attraction?
Gardens by the Bay (I think)
16. Favorite night to party?
Any night that I don’t need to work the next day. (I work every day) 🙁
17. Where would you go?
sOMEwhere quiet, where I can wind down e.g., Lantern, Fullerton Bay Hotel.
18. What’s special about it?
Easier for private conversations with ample opportunities to steal a quick
kiss with your date/lover or even hold his hands – away from watchful eyes (tried and tested)!
19. Which neighborhood is best to stay in?
20. What’s special about that neighborhood?
close proximity to cheap local food
and the local gay scene
21. If you were a tourist visiting which hotel would you stay in?
The Capella or if I have the time I would hop onto one of the private islands near Singapore – the Cempedek Island (Bintan) has a “no kids” policy!
Adrian on coming out & life as a gay man:
“Living life as a gay man in a heteronormative patriarchal society is never easy. I am very blessed as an openly gay man to have a very understanding and supportive mum, who has stood by me in all my major decisions, since coming out, at the age of 19.
Regrettably, I cannot say it was so easy for my 2-year stint, more than 8 years ago, with a multi-national global media conglomerate. I recall distinctly, an extremely unpleasant experience with an HR manager that has left me ‘scarred’ for life. She was the most vocal, among the ‘office aunties’, who tried pairing me up with a female colleague – young, single, attractive and looking for a life partner to settle down with. Having shown no interest in dating her, the HR manager and her Senior Manager then confronted me one evening after work. With seething rage and petrifying stares, they questioned and reprimanded me in turn.
“You’re single right…?”
“What are you waiting for? You’re not that young anymore you know?”
“Why don’t you just ask her out? Come on, be a man!”
“I’m sure your mum can’t wait to play with her grandchildren!”
“…stop being a selfish and unfilial son!”.
The whole episode was a farce, but that was 8 years ago. Looking back, I wonder if things would have been different if I had been open about my sexuality – would we have become ‘sisters’?
Re-enforcing my concern is my recent experience of online attacks by an unknown ‘photographer’ (I presume) – close in age, and gay – who left disparaging remarks about my artwork that was posted by one of my models on his social media account. While I do not understand the reason or motive behind his hostility, what is apparent to me is that “sensibility” and “class” are not automatically bestowed with age (straight or otherwise).
So I hear you, Ehrard – previous “Bachelor of the Week”, when you bravely pointed out that “gay men are often quite bitchy, cold and even racist…”, and may I also add, “mindlessly petty” too. We should instead be supportive of one another – given that we are a minority – as any form of in-fighting will only make us weaker, pulling all of us down, including our straight-allies who support us.”